Ask Vicki: Relationship Remedies Using the Five Elements

Is your home the final frontier for the Great Remote Control War? Does your sister still use the nickname you hated in grade school? And how’s that new over-controlling boss working out?

A quick look around confirms that one of the greatest challenges humans face is getting along with each other; our world abounds with lawsuits, arguments, wars, and relationship complications. But there’s hope. Ask Vicki offers a simple, yet profound approach to understanding and improving our relationships, whether with friend, colleague, child, spouse, or neighbor.


Reclaiming Balance

Reclaiming Balance grew from a deep concern that our world is drastically out of balance in unseen ways.

I believe the root of this imbalance lies in the fact that most cultures are patriarchies. Sadly, we think that’s desirable, even “normal.” But it’s not. By definition, a patriarchy is out of balance.

Patriarchy: the control by men of a disproportionately large share of power. (

For years I accepted for men to have the greatest access to political and financial power, for women to be the ones who cared for home and family, and for God to be male. These are all attributes of a patriarchy, but like most of us, I didn’t understand. It was all I knew. After years of study, I want to share what I’ve learned so we can work together on Reclaiming Balance.